HOW TO REMAIN EVER
HAPPY
What great souls say about
happiness?
·
Happiness
is a state of mind, it doesn’t reside in objects.
·
Money can
give you everything except happiness.
·
Fountain
of happiness is inside you. Don’t make futile attempts to search it
outside.
·
Happiness
is your valuable treasurer. Don’t allow it to be snatched by varying
circumstances and petty matters of life.
·
Happiness
is found in little things: a baby’s smile, a letter from a friend, the song of a
bird, the sunlight through the window.
If I wait to be happy
I will wait
forever
If I am
happy now
I will be
happy forever
What is happiness
Happiness and
unhappiness are basically states of mind and are not necessarily dependent on
outer circumstances and conditions. Therefore, to remain ever happy, what we
have to do is just readjustment of our mental attitudes.
Concentration
As physical exercises
strengthen the body, concentration increases the strength of mind.
Concentration, in other words, means to learn to remain in the present moment,
which is most desirable feature for success and happiness in
life.
Detachment and ability to
forget
We should also develop the ability
to detach ourselves from any thing or task at a moment’s notice. Though it is
sometimes useful to remember, but it is often wise to
forget.
Planned thinking
Ensure at various intervals that
your thinking is planned and systematic and not haphazard and random. Unplanned
random thinking, day dreaming is a sign of weak mind and indicates that instead
of controlling your subconscious mind, you are being controlled by
it.
Positive thinking
We give the least importance to this
most important aspect of our life i.e. how we think. It is the single largest
factor in building up of our personality and character. Develop the habit of
viewing everything positively, even the most miserable
situation.
Reduce the emotional involvement, take things
easy
The root cause of our
suffering is our emotional involvement while dealing with various incidents,
situations and circumstances of life. The cause of our emotional involvement
with worldly things is that we take them too seriously which actually we should
not. We should realize that no difficulties or problems are permanent. They all
will pass. Such is the law. Everything is in a state of constant motion and
change. Nothing is permanent and static here.
Welcome difficulties and problems of life,
they are for our good
We can derive some
benefit and learning from every problem or difficulty of life and exploit it to
our advantage. This is a wonderful law of life. Remember that everything, which
happens to us in life, is for our good only. In the apparently looking cruel and
adverse circumstances is hidden the infinite mercy of God. You have been placed
by god exactly where you deserve. Once you play your present role successfully,
you will be automatically shifted to the next higher
place.
There is reason for
every thing, nothing happens by chance or accident
Universe has a certain
order and everything is bound by a relationship of cause and effect. For every
effect there is a cause. Consider all problems as projects and as means to grow
and remain even minded in success/ failure, gain/ loss, praise/ insult so as to
stop any fresh bondage of karma. It is not the incidents or events which are
important, but, our mental attitude and reaction towards
them.
Silence, solitude
and self – introspection
Try to find some time
daily when you are in solitude and in silence and devote this time solely for
yourself. Try to do some self-introspection in this time as to in which areas
you need improvements and strengthening, in which areas you are
slipping.
Overcome
fear
Fears are drain on our
mental energy and are main stumbling blocks to our progress. By the law of
attraction, whatever we fear or doubt, we actually attract those conditions.
Also bear in mind this great truth that actual mis happening is never that
fearful and painful as our thought or imagination of that
happening
Don’t have
inferiority complex, what others can do, you can also
do
Please remember that
ultimate potential of all of us is exactly the same. No one is any better or
worse than us provided we can explore the potential of our mind through
meditation and soul consciousness. Hence never compare with others and neither
feels inferior nor feel superior to anybody.
Don’t waste
time
Life is short and very
precious. Time is running very fast. Every moment we are coming closer to death.
It can fall at any moment without any notice. Hence don’t waste any time. We
have to achieve maximum in this minimum time. Waste your money and you are only
out of money, but waste your time and you have lost a part of your
life.
Control over
impulses, observe self – restraint and patience
In your daily life,
just don’t follow your impulses and start doing or saying anything whichever
comes to your mind. It is a sign of weak mind. Have some checks and controls on
your mind and never become its slave. Power of controlled mind increases in the
same fashion as the power of water increases when it is controlled and channeled
by constructing a dam.
Don’t react
immediately when provoked
Whenever you feel
disturbed or restless due to some sudden problems or some irrelevant remarks or
comments by somebody, avoid reacting immediately or coming under sudden
provocation. Under provocation, the reasoning power of mind gets
destroyed.
Brooding over past
and worrying for future
Present is the most
important moment of your life. What matters most to you and to the world right
now is what you are at present and not what you were or what you will be. Past
should be used only for learning some lessons from it so that these mistakes are
not repeated. Besides this there is no importance of past. Just forget it like
an old movie witnessed by you. There is no dearth of opportunities in our life
to progress. If you have lost some opportunities in the past, you can still
catch the train now. Opportunities of all sorts are always there before us.
You are the master
of your destiny
You are hundred percent
responsible for what you are in your life. You have made your destiny by your
hands. Never curse your luck for misfortunes, but face the reality boldly.
Accepting self-responsibility for your life and the realization that your
thoughts, words and actions are the moulds for shaping your future can bring
about a major change in your life.
Self-satisfaction
before satisfaction of others
Many people live a life
style, which is primarily aimed at impressing and satisfying others. They give
more importance to what people think about them than what they think about
themselves. This is one of the main reasons for our frustrations in life. Trying
to pretend what you are not is one of the greatest sources of
stress.
Accept and recognize
your weaknesses
Once you have
recognized your weaknesses, you have already taken the first step in removing
them. There should be no hesitation in accepting your weaknesses before others
and there should be no attempt to hide them because it is natural for all human
beings to have some or the other weaknesses and to commit
mistakes.
Don’t fill your
subconscious mind with all sorts of garbage
Your subconscious mind
is a big storehouse for your conscious mind. Whatever you see, hear, think, feel
and experience are all stored here as permanent memory. But the problematic part
is that, along with our thoughts and sense impressions, we are also throwing lot
of emotional garbage and negativity (e.g. hatred, revenge, fear, anger,
jealously etc.), which is playing a real havoc here. Now the law is, whatever
you have fed into your subconscious mind, it gives back the same to
you.
Avoid making
remarks/ comments/ advice to others unless asked for
Only a person who has
achieved perfection is fit to make a remark or comment upon others. Any
preaching, which you want to give for the benefit of others, it is better to
impart that from your behavior rather than from words. You can’t mend any person
against his own will.
Eliminate ego and doer ship
feeling
In all the works or
things you do, have the attitude that it is God’s work and you are doing it
under His guidance as a sevak or servant. He is the actual doer. You are simply
a medium or an instrument in His hands. As soon as ego dissolves, you come face
to face with God.
Always remain
optimistic
Not even the slightest
effort ever made by you goes in vain. In your failure lies the secret of your
success. Success/ failure, pleasure/pain, night/day etc. are the two faces of
the same coin and one can’t be separated from the other. So where there is one,
another is bound to be there as per the natural law.
Learn to say
‘No’
Have your independent
personality, which should stand like a rock amidst even severe opposition if you
are right. If you want to become great and unique, you will have to be different
from the rest of the crowd.
Don’t linger
things
Successful people are
those who get up from their seat and take immediate action. The right time for
starting or doing appropriate thing is just now and not
tomorrow.
Always remain near
to God
So long as you keep
your hands in His hands, you are safe from all the miseries of the world. As
soon as your hand slips, you are surrounded by all sorts of fear, worries,
anxieties, uncertainties, pains, discomforts, failures, and
disappointments.
There is nothing
free of cost in this world
Those things which
apparently appear to come to you free like property of your ancestors, lotteries
or even the bribe money, you repay it in some form or the other, though you
can’t directly see that
Enjoy the work, not
the fruit
As fruits are not in
your hands and only in the hands of Almighty, you should never depend upon the
fruits for your pleasure.
Small things are as
important as big one
Your successful
completion of some big things is not necessarily a sign of greatness. Even fools
can sometimes do heroic deeds, when other circumstances are favourable. Your
greatness is judged by you perform each and every small thing in your
life.
The more you give
the more you get
Whatever you give to
others comes back to you doubled or tripled whether it be knowledge or material
things. Whatever you give to others, you actually save that and whatever you
keep with you, you actually lose.
Avoid selfishness;
expand your consciousness to include the whole world as your family
The best way to keep
you happy is to ensure that others are happy. You should be able to look upon
other’s problems as your own by placing your self mentally in their position. In
the well being and happiness of others lies your own happiness. If your
neighbour is crying, you can’t remain happy in spite of all
luxuries.
Reduce unnecessary
worldly involvement
World is like a big
jungle. The more you enter into it, the more you are lost and
confused.
Problems are
integral part of life
They will never end.
One problem will go, other will come. There is no problem in the world which is
greater than the strength of your mind and which can’t be solved. We are never
given to bear more than our capacity to bear.
Give to the world
more than what you take from it
If you are constantly
fed on from society like a parasite without giving proper output to society, you
are simply a burden on this earth.
Regulate your diet
for your mental well-being
Your diet has a
considerable influence on your mind. One of the secrets for good health is to
always remain slightly hungry. Take plenty of water, vegetables and fruits for
keeping your mind pure.
Do regular
exercise
Physical relaxation
leads to mental relaxation because body and mind are closely
interlinked.
Remain above
diseases of the body
Body is under direct
control of mind. We can remove pain sensitivity by dissociating our mind from
the body.
Avoid fear of
death
After death you are
just the same as before death except that you don’t have a physical body and you
reside in Astral world with an astral body, which is at different vibratory rate
than the Physical world. One who doesn’t fear death, death fears
him.
Take initiative in
setting the things right
As an enlightened
citizen, you must raise your voice against various disorders and injustice. It
is your duty as well as right.
Change yourself to
change the world
If we are keen to
change the world, first thing is that you and I should start changing. Your
change is definitely going to bring change in the world, howsoever small it may
be in proportion.
Don’t take revenge
for the ills done by others to you
Revenge is such a game
in which players die, but the game never ends.
Avoid suspicious/
doubts, have faith
Don’t start with the
bias in your mind that other person is a cheat and deceive you and loot
you.
Be honest, truthful
and righteous in your dealings
Truth can never fall
and untruth can never stand. Results of our actions may be delayed, but are
never lost. There is an inevitable reward for good deeds and inescapable
punishment for bad ones.
Don’t be too anxious
to know your future
It is sure that
everything in future is not going to
happen, as you want. Some adverse things are inevitable in future not only for
you, but also, with everybody because life is like that, a mixture of pleasure
and pain.
Check your desires
and craving for sensual enjoyment
Material desires and
sensual enjoyments have no limit. The more you enjoy, the more you crave for it.
The pleasure obtained by gratification of material desires and sensual
enjoyments are short-lived and mixed with pain.
Live and work in
this world with the sole aim of your constant
development
Our central aim in life
should be to constantly grow physically, mentally and spiritually.
Self-development is the only thing, which is going to remain with us
forever.
Anger is a sign of
weakness
You can get the work
done from the force of your personality rather than from anger. Your saying
something seriously should be enough to get the man moving. Your words and
thought itself have a great power.
Don’t advertise your
problems/ difficulties to others
Except when you really
need help from someone, don’t advertise your problems and difficulties to
others. By the very nature of human psychology, nobody is interested in your
problems. Everybody is interested only in his or her own
problems.
Don’t fight over
religions, all religions are good
At the highest level,
all saints and Gurus become equal. There remains no difference. To become
fanatic in a particular religion or faith is like putting a barrier over your
mind, which can’t see beyond a particular limit.
Enjoy each moment of
life
You should learn to
enjoy amidst working and struggling also. Sitting idle with all material
comforts around you is not enjoyment. Enjoyment is in the mind and not in the
objects.
You can learn from
everybody in the world
There is no body in the
world that knows nothing and there is nobody who knows every thing. Everybody
knows something, which you don’t know.
Don’t do or accept
anything, which is less than the best
As a divine child of
the God, you are entitled to have everything, which is best. Every day try to do
your job a little better than you did the previous day.
We are all connected
to each other
Each mind is connected
with every other mind and all the minds, in turn, are connected with the cosmic
mind (God). No human is an Iceland
Be independent, take
your own decisions
You should try at most
of the times, to solve your problems by yourself and take your own decisions.
People who have become great and successful are so because they have taken some
risks and independent decisions in their life. It is said that, ‘ To become
great you have to cross one ditch or the other in your
life’.
Be humble as you
rise more and more
Greatest man is one who
is servant of all. Pride and arrogance lead to a definite downfall of the
person. He is fit to rule that reluctantly wears the
crown.
External
circumstances, on their own can’t create stress
It is not the external
situations, but your reactions towards them, which causes the stress. You may
control your reactions such that you are never affected emotionally, no matter
what happens in the outside world.
Don’t make
catastrophe out of unpleasant events of life
Experience of thousands
of enlightened men who themselves faced many storms of life shows that there is
nothing in this life which can be called catastrophic or unbearable. Every thing
can be accepted and handled with serenity.
Learn to give up and
let go
Infect, the truth is
that happiness consists not in accumulating things, but rather in giving up and
letting go. The more you let go, the more relived and relaxed you
are.
Don’t get upset over
rejections and disapprovals
The person rejecting
you may not be technically fit for evaluating you or he may be a biased and
jealous person against you. So how can you take his evaluation to be
correct?
Avoid strain of
perfectionism and idealism
We human beings, by our
very definition, are imperfect. No matter at what level we reach, we can’t avoid
making mistakes. Accepting only perfectionism and idealism in every situation
will constantly lead to stress.
Learn to adjust and
compromise
You require much
greater will power and strength in adjusting with a person rather than fighting.
Getting into confrontation with another person needs no will power. Anybody can
do that.
Avoid the strain of
impressing others
We fail to recognize
the tremendous strain we are putting on ourselves to live unto some kind of
image in other’s eyes. Your joy shouldn’t wait for the time when somebody will
come and appreciate your work. Your estimation in your own eyes is much
important. Other people’s comments should be taken only objectively as an
opportunity to reexamine you and take any corrective action, if
required.
Live one day at a
time; don’t rush
It is only by dividing
your life into small units that you can put your whole mind into it without
distraction of past and future and get enjoyment out of it. When your mind
simultaneously moves into past and future, it can’t perform the present task
well.
Does your
conversation often end in irritation and heart
burning?
Primary aim of any
conversation is useful exchange of knowledge and not the establishment of one’s
superiority over the other, we will probably save ourselves from much heart
burning which is the end of many conversations.
Don’t waste your
energies in pleasing and satisfying others
Trying always leads to
tension. Happiness is a natural and effortless state of mind. Happiness can’t be
given or transmitted to others by force. The greatest contribution you can make
in making other people happy is that you first make yourself happy and cheerful
so that vibrations emitted by you induce a similar state in others.
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