Born to win

 Born to win

`Born to win’ is a valuable work of Shri Parmod Batra author of the international

bestseller “Management Thoughts”. The book is meant for all ages, in all walks of life. It

reminds that you are master of your destiny. The book makes one realise that the

reservoir one have for joy, success, love and

happiness is limitless. All one need to do is think positively. And this will bring

enthusiasm, cheerfulness, sincerity and honesty. The author calls that apply the simple

rules and start winning immediately.

Watch your thoughts, they become your words. Watch your words, they become your

actions. Watch your actions, they become your habits. Watch your habits, they become your character. Once you are aware of this, you will be able to ensure, whatever

is good for you. Human mind is a sort of natural computer. In computers the principle

is “GIGO” means “Garbage In Garbage out”. Likewise drawing an analogy between a

computer and human mind, GIGO means “Good Ideas In Good Ideas Out” and reverse

of it is also true, which is called “BIBO” means – Bad Ideas In Bad Ideas Out. Our life is

what our thoughts make it. Our minds are out thought factories and can manufacture

either positive thoughts or negative thoughts, but it is we, only we, can decide which

thoughts to manufacture. Those who want to be happy, train their mind to create happy

thoughts and if we think happy thoughts, we will be happy. If we think miserable

thoughts, we will be miserable. If we think fearful thoughts, we will be fearful.

Man is a strange animal ! No other animal laughs in this Universe. No computer laugh,

no ant laughs, no bee laughs; it is only man who can laugh. Laughter is nature’s greatest

tonic. A good laugh immediately makes us feel better in every way. Laughter brings

strength. Now even science says that laughter is one of the most effective medicines

nature has provided to man.

Now, problems causes us stress. Let us examine why do we have problems ? Well,

roughly speaking one third of our problems are there because we are alive and kicking;

another one-third of our problems are self-created and the remaining one-third of our

problems exist because of our greed and ego. We can solve most of our problems

through our attitude. For every problem, there could be several solutions and solutions

point towards opportunities. Columbus saw his silver lining in discovering the new world,

when he was actually trying to discover a better trade route to India. Author suggest

“MISER” concept :-

M Stands for Merging problems

I Stands for Improving solutions

S Stands for Simplifying ways

E Stands for Eliminating stressful ways

R Stands for Reducing Stress

Thoughtout our life, we keep on trying changing others. But about change it is said.

You can’t change anyone

You can’t change your father,

your mother, your wife, your brother,

your sister, your son, your daughter –

not even your boss !

Change yourself first.

And changing oneself is perhaps the easiest and only problem is we wait so long to begin

it. And when we change ourself, we have the potential to change the world around us !If you are looking for genuine pleasure in life, compare yourself not with others but with

yourself. Most of our stresses come when we compare ourselves with others.

Comparing how we are doing with how others are doing is dangerous. Comparisons

breed insecurity, yet we habitually make them between our children, with the children of

our friends, colleagues and relatives. The result is that we feel on the top of the world

one minute, and the next minute, inferiority complex sets in.

So to be a winner, stop comparing and if you have to compare, compare with your own

potential.

There is a famous saying – ‘Action may not always bring happiness, but there is no

happiness without action’, So, do what you think is right, what you think is proper.

Remember, you can always rectify your wrong decisions the moment you find them to be

wrong. One the other hand, if you do not take any decisions at all, how will you ever be

able to improve your future decision – making ?

Each one of us wants to be great, each one of us wants to be first and each one of us

wants to make history ! Well, everyone knows that this is just not possible. Result –

frustration and failure, stress and strain. Then how to rationalise it. Each one of us

cannot be great and do great things. We can do small things greatly and this way, I

create my own pleasures.

Managing things is simple when you learn to say “NO” and also develop the habit of

accepting “NO”even when others say it. People have limited capacities. If we are to

reduce our pressures, we must keep this fact in mind while accepting assignments or

giving assignments to others. Think before you give commitments. It just require

common sense. “No”is the least used word and is the root cause of a majority of

problems everywhere in the world. Very often, a clear and distinct. “No”can save a

hundred heartaches ! Some times it is hard to say “NO” . You have to decide whether

you want to be a nice guy, or less stressful and, therefore, nicer.

Normally, most of us are too miserly in using the words “thank you” and ‘sorry’in any

language. And when you convey your thanks, what you express in words is 10 percent;

what your eyes convey is 20 percent; what you say from your head is 30 percent and

what you say from your heart is 40 percent.

Forgiveness is happiness. Forgive and forget. Simple If you don’t forgive friends, a

day will come when you will not have any friends. If you are a business man, you will

not have customers. There are people who refuse to let go of the wrongs which have

been done to them. Some do not even forgive and forget their parents. And some

parents don’t forgive and forget their own children. A desire for revenge will harm us

more quickly than the habit of forgiving and forgetting. Martin Luther king said, :

Forgiveness is not an occasional act; it is a permanent attitude.Ïf we want happiness, we need to manage our anger creatively. Anger is one of the

emotions experienced by each one of us. Controlling anger is an ongoing effort. It

require quick self-audit at the end of the day and this can reduce anger to a great extent.

Greed is the heart’s greatest enemy, not hard work or a hectic schedule, says, Dr.

Naresh Trehan famous cardiologist. Then how to control it ? The moot point is to

frequently ask yourself the questions: “ Is it necessary “? “ Do I really need it “? And

through this small exercise a day will come when you will be at peace with yourself.

Manage your time as you manage your money. And mismanagement of time causes so

many stresses. The basic reason of mis-managing time, is, we spend more time on

things which we like and not on those things which have to be done. In managing time,

we should know our time-stealers and time-savers. God has given 24 hours to

everyone…….. to you, to me and to everyone else. Then how is it that you find some

always in hurry, some always having plenty of time. Nothing but sheer time

management.

Prioritising is another virtue, through it you are able to fix and refix goals and reduce your

mental clutter and stress. In our daily routine, we forget to apply the 80/20 principle –

namely, that 20 percent of what we do will yield 80 percent of the result and vice-versa.

So, to be effective……..do the right things and then try to become efficient by doing these

the right way. Very often, we spend considerable energy working the otherway round –

doing the wrong or unnecessary things with great gusto.

Sometime, some people develop the fear of unknown. To overcome the fear of meeting

new people, new places, new situations, remember that you do not need to know as

much as you think. Ask open ended questions that require more than a “yes” or “no”

answer. This way you will encourage other to talk. You will be better informed and your

fear “what if……..” decreases and your confidence goes up. Always remember, Dialogue

must begin, first of all, within ourself. If we cannot make peace within, how can we hope

to bring about peace in the world.

And finally, treat everybody with politeness, even those who are rude to you. Remember

that you show courtesy to others not because they are gentlemen but because you are

one.

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